I’m crap at recognising when people find me attractive. I’ve never been good at it. When I was much younger and new to the gay scene, friends used to have to tell me when someone was attracted to me. I just didn’t get it. Since then I have had several significant relationships and many more insignificant ones (ahem, *cough*… ), yet still struggle with ‘reading’ when people potentially find me attractive.
Saturday night, I went out to an event called ‘Architecture Rocks’ with OBF (Other Best Friend) and his friend who was visiting from the States – BAMB (Brazen Americana Male Beauty), who is simply incredible in his ability to go after someone. He hones in on someone and within 15 minutes or so they are attached to his lips. Anyway, there we were standing watching some German emo band with a shirtless lead singer (who was kinda hot, as an aside) when I realised that a very attractive guy was standing next to me and staring. We’ll call him CB (Cap Boy). Next thing I knew he had asked my name and I had been told his.
After a while BAMB came over and asked why I had gone so quiet in addition to being bright red and I explained to him that I found this lovely boy (CB) attractive and wasn’t great at times like that. BIG MISTAKE.
BAMB decided that it was his responsibility to ‘bring us together’. So awkwardly, he started saying things to CB like ‘so you’ve just arrived in the UK?’ (CB was from NYC and had just arrived to start studying his Masters of Fine Art at Goldsmiths) and before CB could answer, BAMB was already saying ‘Ziggy here can show you around. He’d love that. Ziggy give him your number. So you like art? Ziggy is a member of the Tate – get him to take you. Ziggy’s free Monday, Wednesday and Thursday night this week – when are you free?’ … etc, etc.
And I have to say, that although all of this made me even redder and literally shrink from my normal 6’1 to around 4 foot nothing, I completely and utterly admired BAMB’s tenacity. He decided that CB and I would be a perfect match and did everything in his power (within that limited window) to make it a reality.
Of course, at the end of the night I skulked out without speaking another word to CB. I know, I know... I'm useless.
21 comments:
Why mess with BAMB or CB, when you've got BAMBCB reading your blog right now? ;)
Hey, we match heights. That could potentially be convenient.
oh ryan... with that photo I'll mess with you all you like.
mess on me, dammit!
;)
Hmmm, but if CB found you attractive why didn't HE make sure that HE got your number? Could be that BAMB made the whole situation uncomfortable for both of you!
GB xxx
PS: Thx for the comment, Splash in NYC is still there of course, but I think its more of a dance club now instead of the bar with wall to wall cute boys that it always seemed to be about ten years ago!
When I last checked, Ryan was straight. I go away for a few days and it's gone all Parallell Earth!
Last time you've checked??? God, Jay showed you the pictures, too! :O
Come on, Dan - it doesn't really matter if he is straight if all he wants is a mess...
ps. how was your honeymoon, Dan??
oh, and Gay Banker. That was part of the equation I willingly ignored.
;-)
welcome to the madhouse.
Ziggy, Ziggy, Zigster. If you've got it, you've got it. CB may have been just as backwards as you. Maybe a push is all you needed, but dayum, is this going anywhere or are you going to drop it???? If you want it, go after it!!
:push, push, nudge,nudge:
lol
nothing ventured, nothing gained! do you like bald guys? you can have one of mine...
I, too, am useless in this department. I wish I had some great advice or words of wisdom, but I don't. In the same situation, I usually say nothing at all or, tragically, will say far too much and skulk away in shame.
All I can say is that I totally relate. I suppose the thing to do is assume that the CB's of the world are just as useless. There is much comfort in that.
Ryan based on your blog you mess around about 3 times a day. Ziggy need stability!
P.S. Ryan you live about 15 minutes from me....behave! :-)
erm, that was *needs* damn typos
I didn't really check Ryan and never saw the photos except for the ones on Jay's blog...
Honeymoon? Marvellous! Photos and shit ramblings over at my place!
I'm never able to tell if someone's flirting or interested in me. I usually just get all brave and ask after they come up for air.
Oh my! Late to such a delightful party!!! Forgive me Ziggy! I just like to sit, uninterrupted, to read you and with two crazy bohemians outta school, well, tough going for me! BUT, summer school starts on Monday so YAY!!!!
ZIGGY!!!! I saw your body, have yet to see your face (how kinky does that sound?) and can tell you are a fab hottie, HOTTIE I SAY! After all, I AM an oversexed gay man trapped in a straight woman's body so yeah, I would so know a thing or two about the subject!
So spunk it up, connect to the fabness that is you, and let loose! I am sure the guys that approach you had to work up the nerve to do that and if they aren't more aggressive it may be their insecurities and perhaps them feeling that you might not be interested! Hmph! I seriously need to take you out! What say you?
I think Ziggy needs to go public on here. I mean a photograph. And not one of them Gaydar type ones what I have never even heard of so shut up...
Bluez, 4 times a day. 4. :)
Now, I gotta see where you live. I'm off!
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