10 December, 2005

gay 30 something

My new colleague at work told me yesterday that I should get myself a Gaydar profile. Apparently it is 'the only way to find yourself a boyfriend'. It took a lot of restraint not to hit him.

I hate Gaydar. I have tried it (some years ago), and found that most of the guys on there are just looking for sex. I mean, if a guy's main photo is a shot of his cock, you kind of know that he is not looking for a long term relationship. Which is fine, if that is all you want. I don't.

But something in what my colleague said struck a chord. Here I am, at 32 years of age, and at the moment am happily single (for now at least). But what about when that changes? I hardly go out on the gay scene now, preferring to frequent bars that are not 'sexuality' specific but rather, just good fun.

Part of me was angered by his comment and thought that if I'm over the hill in 'gay' years then that is just a reflection of his own insecurities. But there was another *small* part of me somewhere deep down that felt a little bit concerned.

18 comments:

Dan Project 76 said...

You're not over the hill at all, whoever said that is a moron.

If I wasn't happily married and this was a parallel universe... You always come across as a pretty cool dude, mate.

The Dangerous Man said...

Unless you want to attract all the one time shag abouts I'd stay well clear!

Trust me, I'd rather live with 'Palm Sunday' as the only celebration in life than shag any of those freaks

The Dangerous Man said...

(sorry, I was referring to those on Gaydar)

Anhoni Patel said...

Puh-leaze Ziggy. You don't need no "gaydar" bullshit to find yourself a piece of ass...I mean a man. Keep on going to your fav places and you'll find someone all in good time.

And you are *not* over the hill.

ziggystardust73 said...

aaawww feeling the love all around.

maybe I should place an advert on my blog when I decide I want to date again.... !

DaBich said...

You know, Zig, you have to be careful with those Gaydar things, what if someone tries to kill you...seriously? I'd think long and hard before getting into that stuff...be careful man!

Anhoni Patel said...

Ziggy, that would be hilarious and...interesting. Your blog could potentially develop a cult following like the Turkish "I kiss you" guy.

ziggystardust73 said...

Turkish 'I kiss you' guy!? What's this Anhoni? Tell me, tell me!

So perhaps I will put a button on my blog somewhere that says 'Press this button if you want to date me'.

scribe said...

When that asshole suggested that, you shoulda been all like, "Muthafuka, YOU best git'choo some gaydar 'cause dis fist headin' straight fo' yo' ass!' and punched him in the face!!!

Anhoni Patel said...

I think he took down the site, but here's an article on him:

http://www.salon.com/tech/log/1999/11/04/mahir/

angel, jr. said...

You aren't over the hill. And if you are as fun in person as you are on the blog, you shouldn't have any problem finding someone to fall in love with.

Nick Stephenson said...

Face it, you ARE over hill.

Maybe you DO need to get a Gaydar profile. You're the only gay man without one ...

See you on Thursday - we can have a drink and misbehave as only us Gaydar hating, over-the-hillers can do!

ziggystardust73 said...

Scribe, perhaps next time I will try that. Although I don't think I would get the accent quite right.

Angel, how kind, thank you.

Nick, yay. Perhaps us over the hill homophobic homosexualists can raise hell on thursday. Yay.

scribe said...

accent shmaccent!!! Just kick dat ass dawg!!! LOL

Dan Project 76 said...

Can I come on Thursday? :-)

ziggystardust73 said...

Dan, clearly Thursday has now passed.

However, please expect an email from Ziggy shortly...

Dan Project 76 said...

A whatmail?

ziggystardust73 said...

Dan, I thought there was an email contact on your site... but was wrong. So I posted a message on your 'board' for you instead!