22 April, 2006

Dear Agony Aunt...

It's probably not appropriate whilst my parents are staying with me, but jeez, life carries on really, doesn't it?

I went to the gym last night and yet again, was quite happily working out before suddenly realising I was being watched. It isn't the first time it's happened, but this time it was by someone really quite gorgeous. We'll call him BGGB (Bloody Gorgeous Gym Boy).

Great face, lovely tan, ultra-toned body (yes that would be intimidating when it came down to it but hey... I'm sure I could deal with that insecurity...); this guy was the kind of guy you see on the street and wonder who is lucky enough to be noticed by him.

Of course, I got all flustered and looked even redder than I already was from my workout. I mean, what are you supposed to do in a situation like this? It was clear that he was looking over at me in a particular way - I mean, I'm clueless but not that clueless.

What I did do was to finish my stretching quickly, hurredly go to the changerooms and then got out of there as quickly as possible. I know, I know... I'm pathetic.

But what's the alternative? What is one to do when someone checks you out like that? Go up to them? Ask for their number? Offer yours? I mean, a boy's got his pride! I've always been useless at this sort of thing.

So any suggestions are welcomed gratefully... answers on a postcard please (or a comment box in lieu of a postcard).

13 comments:

Miz BoheMia said...

Hmmm... Play it cool... go about your business as if nothing unusual is happening... eventually make occasional eye contact and if he doesn't come up to you that day for one of the two to strike up some casual conversation it will happen perhaps on another day...

... or think of a question you could have and you just happen to ask him...

... or just simply go up to him.

Dammit, this is too complicated online! I am coming over and we are hitting that gym together! Being a yoga teacher I used to be a hit at Gold's Gym back in SF and I have made many a big burly man sweat... I can take him on and he will be all yours! What'd you say Ziggy?

Bluez628 said...

Yanno what? Fuck him if he doesn't notice you! It's his loss. Why do you have to have a gym rat? You just don't seem the type that needs that kind of crap. I bet he's not gay and he's just a metro!

Anhoni Patel said...

uh...you should have caught his eye. If he kept on looking you should have smiled back.

what's wrong with you, Ziggy! ;).

The Dangerous Man said...

I can't believe you didn't say anything!
Mind you its easier said than done and especially if you fear rejection. Even worse, he's straight, God that would be a nightmare.

Better luck next time someone catches your eye.

angel, jr. said...

Play it cool!
I've never been checked out, at least not to my knowledge, so I don't know how to react in a situation like that.
I've always been more a conversationalist and work my flirting in that mode.

Dan Project 76 said...

I would have yelped and run away so don't ask me!

ziggystardust73 said...

Miz Boho - you're on!

Bluez - I don't need a gym rat (you're right!), and it is possible he is just a metro (that made me laugh) because there are many like that in the gym I go to... what is that!? I actually hate that, it's confusing for me (the metros) and just disgusting for their girlfriends/wives...

Anhoni - I don't know what's wrong with me... :-(

DM - I'm just a big scaredy cat. I don't say things to people - I wait for them to say things to me!

Angel - yep, the whole conversational flirting thing is useful, problem being it didn't even get to that point because I ran away!

Dan - running away is my specialty!

running42k said...

So are you going to try to run into him again or avoid him at the gym?

DaBich said...

Ziggy, ziggy, ziggy~there's nothing wrong with you, you're just a wee bit shy. Like most of the others said, catch his eye if you see him again. Smile, even duck your head if you must, but LOOK AGAIN, silly lol. Flirt a bit..see if he approaches you.
If you're brave enough, you COULD start a conversation. "hey, you're new here, aren't you?"
"Bloody horrid weather we're having." I know, but still, it breaks the ice :)

Anonymous said...

Hey I thought gay men found that sort of thing quite easy!! Oh, I forget - you are not a gay man, but a lesbian trapped in a gay man's body. Love you F x

The Dangerous Man said...

Just realised I'm not linked to on here. Aghh, well, how rude!

I shall go and sulk for, 2 minutes.

constant rain said...

It probably doesn't make you feel better, but I would have done the same thing, but worse. :)

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